This V day, don't forget about your man

So with Valentine's Day just a week away, I thought I'd post something about it.

I've never been one to celebrate Valentine's Day, mostly because a) I believe in celebrating the love you share with your partner every single day and b) commercializing love pisses me off.

Anyway, one thing that bothers me every single year is how most girls seem to think V day is exists solely for them, so their guy can get them presents and prove how much he loves (or likes) her. Valentine's Day should be about two people celebrating the love they SHARE. So girls, don't forget to plan something special for your guy this week. He needs to know how much you care and see you display your love for him just as much as you need the same.

Hope the day lives up to all of your expectations! <3

My girls....the nut jobs

My cats are pretty much insane. They chase each other up and down the hall all day, make panther noises when they're acting especially nutty, and do things like this:



No, we didn't put her up there. She likes to do the strangest things. Things like that, obviously, but lately she has taken to doing things like this: (note: sorry for talking weird to my cats in the background, but I've already admitted I'm a cat lady so it shouldn't surprise you)

 

That's her rolling around in Tucker's smell. The end of the video clearly shows that she's pretty much terrified of the dogs- she jumps every time she hears them & thinks they're coming upstairs, but apparently she loves them enough (secretly) to want to crawl into their crates & roll around in their smell.

Having 5 animals can be quite a headache sometimes, but it's mostly just moments like these that make me laugh & scratch my head. :D

Rearranging movie files

I spent most of my day today rearranging movie files on my computer. This was quite a massive task. I started with probably about 15 different folders named "Video" in various subfolders. Together they contained near 1000 movies. I found out that I had quite a few duplicates, so I was able to trash those & gain some more space on my computer.

As annoying and tedious as it was, it was just as fun, & I really enjoyed seeing some videos I had forgotten existed!

One thing I'll say is that I really wish I took more videos of me & Alexey in the first few years of our relationship. I've got a few, but they are so precious to me & there just aren't enough! I also realized that I didn't take enough video of my animals when they were little. I guess this is good to realize now- just in case we do have babies some day. Maybe then I'll remember how much I regret not having filmed more of their life.

A lot of people have told me I take too many pictures/videos & that I need to just enjoy it. The problem is that I really love memories, but I have a horrible memory. When I see pictures or videos, it triggers the memory in my head & I remember everything about that moment. Without them, I can recall that something like it happened, but I don't have any details. And even though I'm snapping pictures or filming, I still enjoy the moment as it's happening. If I wasn't, the pictures or videos wouldn't matter because I wouldn't enjoy them in the future anyway.

So my goal from here on out is to film Alexey & myself more often & actually TALK in the videos about things that are going on in our lives. Of the few videos there are, we have so many questions about them- like when they were filmed, how old we were, etc, so we're going to leave ourselves some more clues. I'm also not going to take quite so many pictures. I opened up that folder & promptly exited back out because it scared me. Even though I've "organized" it a few times, it's still a complete wreck just because of the sheer amount of photos I have.

Reminiscing today was great & I can't wait until a few years from now when I have even more videos to look back at, smile & remember :)

My first crush

Do you remember who your first crush was? I do. He was a sweet little blond boy, the only blonde I've ever crushed on. He was 5 and I was 4. He also gave me my first kiss!

If you remember your first crush, do you remember how you came to have a crush on them? I'm guessing you didn't think about it. It probably happened on its own without you realizing it until it smacked you upside the head. He (or she) walked by & you felt it. And I would bet 100 bucks on the fact that after you realized your crush you didn't stop & think about if it was right or not.

Every time I meet a homophobic person, I think about my first crush & how all of my crushes happened. I didn't choose any of them. Each crush happened like I said before- it just kind of smacked me upside the head. What if the first attraction I'd felt was to a girl? What if? What if their first attraction had been to a person of the same gender? To them, they chose to not be attracted to the same sex, but just like everyone else they just felt it.

Just as I couldn't change what sex I'm attracted to, neither can gay people. Sure, for some, it may happen over time, but it's usually not something you can decide to do & just do it. Even if that was possible, I still believe you'd always feel a little off about your relationships.

The main point I'm trying to make here is that I think it's so totally wrong for people to expect others to ignore their instincts & feelings when they believe it's perfectly ok for them to listen to their own. Why are there people that believe there is actually a right & a wrong decision when it comes to LOVE?

I didn't choose who I love. It just happened one day; I was smacked in the face with it & I'm just lucky enough that he happened to feel the same way. If I can live happily ever after in peace & have no one tell me my choice is wrong, why shouldn't everyone be allowed to also?